Life Is A Dumpster Fire

When writing a dating profile, think of it like a resume. Apart from the obvious, putting not enough information, sometimes there is too much information. People can have a mixture of their best qualities while listing some of the things they are working on. Here are some of the common mistakes that I see in profiles.

1. Never start with “I have given up,” but here it goes…..

It just sounds negative. Dating apps can be fun with an open mind. You can potentially meet more people than you would organically, which means there will be rejection, much like in the real world. For those who remember old-school dating, a person could talk to 20 people in a bar, give out a number, and never hear from anyone. It’s a law of averages. Additionally, if the negativity is connected to a previous bad relationship, you should work on this before starting something new.

2. Being Overly specific

I recently received a like from a person, and when I read through their profile, they had written, “I prefer petite girls,” which makes sense because they were 5’6. The profile said, “Bonus points for redheads with fair skin.” Zero of this applied to me. Look at your criteria, and ask yourself what the odds are. I did a little research and found: 2 to 6 % of the US population is redheaded. Now let’s divide that by gender. Factor out those under 18, not married or in a relationship, and attracted to the gender of the profile. I didn’t narrow it down to specific statistics; however, I can only imagine that it substantially decreases the odds of finding someone. I did not reply.

3. Dramatic lives may be a red flag

When a profile states, “Looking for a girl that won’t steal all my shit.” Statements like this may be a potential red flag because I have to ask, what is going on in your life that this is an actual criterion for dating.